HUMAN RELATIONS PRINCIPLES

Gain Cooperation

Gaining cooperation means we help others become committed to working as a team. If we get “compliance,” it is only a matter of time before results suffer and the team becomes mired in unmanageable conflict or, worse yet, becomes indifferent to the goals of the organization and non-committal to one another. The best way to gain cooperation is to be cooperative ourselves and to be emotionally intelligent about the needs of the team.

Dale Carnegie provides 12 principles for gaining cooperation. Not only do these principles help us win people to our way of thinking; they help us tap the energy and intelligence of the team. This encourages innovation, cooperation, and bottom-line results!

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

An argument is 90% emotion and 10% nonsense. A mature professional avoids arguments.

Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say, “You’re wrong.”

Avoid making others defensive. It shrinks the channels of communication. Simply ask why they feel the way they do.

If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

This disarms conflict and opens up lines of communication.

Begin in a friendly way.

If we aren’t open and friendly, winning people to our way of thinking is nearly impossible.

Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.

It’s important to begin by agreeing on something. Then the challenging ideas are more easily accepted.

Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

Not only will the person share information, but he or she might “talk themselves” into cooperating.

Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

What is right, not who is right, is most important. By following this principle, we build another person’s confidence and willingness to share ideas and strengthen the team.

Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

The other person’s point of view may be clearer than ours. Learn what you can from other points of view.

Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.

Being understanding and sympathetic is a sure way of keeping channels of communication open.

Appeal to the nobler motives.

Most people will work very hard for ideals and the higher aims of the organization if they know what they are and how they apply in a particular situation.

Dramatize your ideas.

A unique idea should have a unique package. Use creative approaches to help sell your idea.

Throw down a challenge.

Most of us have a competitive side. Challenging others to action often produces unexpected positive results.


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